essays

psychic hygiene

In real terms, *what is* matters far less to my life than *what can I do about it?* One I have no control over. The other is explicitly actionable. These are very different ways of existing in the world. Zero agency vs complete agency.

parenting

why we only read paper books

Every time you put up a bookshelf and stock it, you're increasing the surface area for magic to happen. I've had books change my life over the course of an evening. (Looking at you, Wind, Sand, and Stars)

a failure of honesty

One of the cornerstone documents of the SEAL Teams is the SEAL Ethos. Its influence spans from the newest recruit

gardening

how tomatoes saved my marriage

People are complicated, our ability to see reality is limited, our lives are interleaved, and time is long - so it's impossible to tease out all the moments that have led me from the bottom of that dark place to the light place, full of love, I find myself in today.

long

basically magic

We should never underestimate the subtle power of the language we choose.