19 poasts
psychic hygiene
In real terms, *what is* matters far less to my life than *what can I do about it?* One I have no control over. The other is explicitly actionable. These are very different ways of existing in the world. Zero agency vs complete agency.
why we only read paper books
Every time you put up a bookshelf and stock it, you're increasing the surface area for magic to happen. I've had books change my life over the course of an evening. (Looking at you, Wind, Sand, and Stars)
we parent as we garden
Kids need to be told that our love is unconditional. Just because you and I know this does not mean they do. And we have to tell them regularly – as a practice - because their self-doubt has a way of creeping in alongside all the noise of the world.
the best boring thing
Our kids will be working so hard for it and getting so much out of it that will transfer to the rest of their lives - that all the time will be more than worth the sacrifice. It doesn't have to be something I love or even understand - they get to choose and live their lives.
free willy and cultural culling
Today my son referenced "that old movie about the orca" - racked his brain for a moment - and beamed
a failure of honesty
One of the cornerstone documents of the SEAL Teams is the SEAL Ethos. Its influence spans from the newest recruit
how tomatoes saved my marriage
People are complicated, our ability to see reality is limited, our lives are interleaved, and time is long - so it's impossible to tease out all the moments that have led me from the bottom of that dark place to the light place, full of love, I find myself in today.
incremental wins
At times it felt impossible or pointless, but I did what I always do when I start to feel sorry for myself: I told myself to shut the fuck up and keep working.
on idle instruments
Idle, available instruments are surface area for sparks, and we just want our kids to have as many sparks in their lives as possible.
seeds
There is a scene in The Big Short are when the two young investors are sitting in Brad Pitt'
some days
Some days I'm driven to excel, to maximize my potential, and to put things into the world. The
adulting is bullshit
Yesterday I noticed that my mind is actually clearer right after COVID than it was before I got sick and